It may feel like a lie at first.
The best is ahead of you.
It may hurt to think this. It may feel like a lie at first.
It feels like a lie because it’s so much work to get to the point where you can feel joy again.
It feels like a lie because it’s easier to replay your good memories in the same way you might listen to the same music over and over again.
It feels like a lie because there is so much junk in-between you and your best.
Your physical, mental, emotional best.
And in order to reach the best, you have to go back through that place you never wanted to go again.
The best is ahead of you, once you get yourself back.
Thinking this thought may make you panic. May make you cry.
It may require you to go back and reclaim the parts of yourself other people still have…somewhere in a jar.
It may require you to say no to them, or shut them out entirely.
It may require you to stick up for yourself.
It may require you to cut ties.
It may require you to redefine yourself…not in terms of what was done to you or said to you, but in terms of what you do and what you want.
The best is ahead of you, once you get yourself back. Once you are whole. Once you no longer believe someone else had you at your smartest, your best, your prettiest, your “prime”, because your prime has yet to happen.
The best is ahead of you, once you find your people.
Once you find people who have goals that align with yours.
Once you choose to surround yourself with people who will notice when you’re falling off, and will help you get back on track.
People who will not pressure you to drink, to have sex, to repress your feelings.
People who will listen to you as long as you need — who hold you, but only when you want them to, and who listen to your no.
The best is ahead of you, once you reclaim yourself and begin strategically picking who you want to share that reclaimed, best self with…instead of picking anyone. Instead of grasping at straws.
The best is ahead of you, once you surround yourself with your champions, your heroes, your inspirations, your peers…the fellow learners on your level.
The best is ahead of you, if you’re willing to be strong for it.
This is hard.
Well, it’s all been hard.
But we think of happiness as something easy. Success as something easy.
Happiness is supposed to be the thing that grants us liberation. Freedom from our struggles and pain. Right?
No, happiness comes after you have already built your strength.
Happiness is not for the weak of heart.
It is not the same as relief, as salvation.
Someone who is rescued is relieved, is safe, not happy.
Happiness is something else.
You must be strong to be happy.
The strength has to come first, or else what can you hold the happiness in?
What cup, what vessel will contain it?
Happiness is not a feeling. It is not something that is done to you. It is not something that you just receive and then have forever.
Happiness is a habit, and keeping it, maintaining it, requires strength…the same way a garden requires care, the same way healthy children and animals require care.
To be happy, you must be strong.
The best is ahead of you. It may feel like a lie at first.
But it will feel more manageable once you break it into pieces.
First, the cleaning of junk.
Deciding what you want.
Yes, the best is ahead of you.
Isn’t that wonderful?