You’re not where you want to be, but you’re ready to make it happen.
At some point, you will feel like what you’re doing is not working. It could be in your career, business, finances or relationship.
Deep down, there’s a person we envision ourselves being. Buried under that person is bad habits, poor decisions, negative influences and limiting beliefs based on past experiences.
As that person — the real you — slip further and further away, we look for ways to reconnect with that dream. To bring that person to the surface. Often, we’re not sure how to. But the anxiety of losing that person changes our mindset.
With that mindset shift, your behavior changes. It’s subtle at first, but then it gets obvious to you and others around you. The difference between success and failure in being the person you want to be is to take action.
The tipping point for me was at my last job. The environment was fine and I was good at what I did, but I felt stagnant. I was ready for an upgrade or a change but it just was not happening at the time. Soon, I became less engaged. It was easier to justify staying at home. (Attendance is a good acid test to know where you are is not where you want to be. )
I know I needed to level up but had several mental blocks from making that happen.
Sometimes we’re afraid to make that move because of what we think others will say. So we stay consistent because that’s what your parents know, or your wife knows or your friends know.
(I’ve come to learn that in the end, no one cares, not even your family. Being alive is the demarcation point.)
Do you feel like you’re on the edge of change? There are warning signs you’re about to — or want to — do something different with your life. Those signs get you right to the edge of the water or cliff, ready to jump.
1. You don’t want to be around your friends anymore
As the saying goes, you are the product of the five persons you surround yourself with.
If you’re looking to level up and your friends continue to show behaviors contrary to your goals, you will find you’re distancing yourself from them.
In fact, a clear sign is if they try to dissuade you from making the changes you need to make and you begin to take notice. Surrounding yourself with the right people can easily get you where you want to be.
2. The voice in your head is getting louder
We all have that nagging voice in our heads that we suppress from time to time. While in the past, you were able to justify why you haven’t left your job yet, start writing that book, or opened your business, it’s becoming increasingly difficult to do so.
That voice in your head seems louder and it seems harder to keep it quiet. It keeps gnawing at you, like a dog scratching at a door trying to get in.
And it’s about time you let it in because it’s a sign you’re ready to make a change.
3. You start seeking out help to achieve your goals
As a coach, one of the best emails you can get is from someone who’s ready to make a change. You did not have to do any work to convince them to take up your package. They’re just ready to go. They did the research and sought you out. As the saying goes…
When the student is ready, the teacher will appear
If you find yourself seeking out books, courses or mentors, you’re ready to move on to the next level. Making a decision to invest in yourself means there’s no turning back. You’re ready to put skin in the game.
4. You’re replaying past chances missed
While it’s not ideal to live in the past, you can take a cue from your constant replaying of opportunities missed.
- You should have applied for that promotion
- Or entered that singing competition
- You missed the deadline for an online course.
- The business you had a chance to invest in turned out well
Beating yourself up won’t help. But acknowledging past chances means you’re ready to capitalize on the next opportunity to take things to the next level.
5. You see opportunities abound
Speaking of opportunities, have you ever decided you wanted to buy a particular car, then everywhere you go, you see the ride you’ve had your eye on?
When you’re ready to make a change in your life, similar opportunities will manifest before you, to the point of annoyance. You will see an ad in the paper or someone will suddenly bring up the subject. Problems you did not recognize become clearer, more obvious. You start getting those creepy Facebook ads.
When you’re ready to make a change in your life, almost anything becomes an opportunity.
6. Your work no longer inspires you
A big sign I needed to make a change in my life was that I felt like I was dragging my feet to work each day.
When you can explain away why you should not go to work, you no longer want to be there. But when you recognize what you’re doing is not growing in line with your own personal growth, it’s time to make a change.
7. You’ve taken up — or intend to take up — a new hobby
Nothing changes your perspective like learning or mastering a new skill. It’s how you build discipline, creativity, make new connections, and even make more money.
It’s a fact we barely read new books or add new skills once we leave school.
Taking up a new skill means where you’re at is not enough. Even if it’s for pleasure, your desire to try something new means you’re interested in changing parts of your life for the better.
8. You’re sick and tired
- Of being overweight
- Of being sick and tired
- Being broke
- Or being single
You’ve found yourself saying you’re sick and tired of X at least once a month. Frustration levels are at fever pitch. You’re angry at your circumstances, environment, and yourself for letting it get to this stage.
At this point, you’re ready to take massive action. What we tend to do is let that emotion pass then it comes up again when the situation that triggered it comes up again.
When you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired, it’s the best time to take your first step because that’s the time when you’re ready.
9. You just feel stuck
It’s not that life is bad. In fact, you’re grateful for many of the things you have now. But it can be better, and you know it.
You’re in this state of limbo, running just at or above average, going neither back nor forward. Feeling stuck means you’re at the place where you need to talk to someone or start journaling. This helps you flesh out ideas and come up with the next step to getting your shit together.
More importantly, acknowledging that you’re stuck is a positive sign that you’re ready to make a move and be the change you want to see.
One of the most difficult feelings is knowing you need to make a change but not knowing where to start. You see the signs and you can’t ignore them any longer. So what do you do? If you’re going through any of these behaviors mentioned, you’re in a good space to jump in with both feet and do what your gut tells you.
You won’t have all the answers, and that’s ok. Just start and build it as you go along. Just enjoy the fact that you finally decided to make a change and on the other side of that decision is the person you always knew you could be.