You want the brutal truth?
Success is a myth.
And no matter how many articles, stories, live videos, webinars, etc., tell you that there’s only 1 thing or only 3 steps blocking you, it’s not going to happen.
Success is a personal thing. One person’s “truth” isn’t yours. One person’s story isn’t yours. One person’s steps aren’t yours. In fact, one person’s idea of success isn’t yours.
If you tried to follow some new-age “guru” with a Lamborghini’s guide to becoming successful you might spend the rest of your life feeling unsuccessful. Why? Because maybe your idea of success doesn’t involve a Lamborghini. But he says he’s successful, so he must be. And after ten years of following him, now you do too, so you must be successful too. And yet you aren’t.
Or maybe you follow the guy who’s telling you to wake up at 4 am and take a cold shower. You wake up at 4am and take cold showers but somehow you still feel unsuccessful.
Because you are.
Success is a myth. It’s personal. It’s not about what other people say it is. It’s about what you think it is.
If you think having two kids and a dog named Fido makes you successful, then great, you’re successful. There isn’t anything else to it. You don’t need to follow other people, research “brutal truths” and “unbelievable steps” to get to where you need or want to be.
I’m getting tired of the motivational circle jerk all over the internet these days.
You do you.
But for the love of God, don’t take someone’s regurgitated garbage as the Holy Truth.
Also, just because someone says in the introduction to their article that they’re “wildly successful”, you don’t have to believe them. You could very well just be reading one of their three daily affirmations. Chances are they live in some small apartment with a dog that looks more like a rat and they’re trying to figure out how to pay their next bills.
This doesn’t mean there isn’t anything to learn from the many people creating content online. Some people give great advice. Some people tell wonderful stories. Some people really have something good to give.
But unfortunately, a lot of people don’t. Unfortunately, a lot of people have found out that many other people will endlessly read/consume personal improvement-type content. And so they fill the demand with more and more supply.
When you’re starving and malnourished, gummy bears might taste good, but they’re won’t help you.
If you’re feeling tired and unsuccessful, regurgitated garbage won’t help you either.
Regurgitated garbage. That’s a harsh term, I get it. But let’s be real for a second, you and I both know it’s true.
Someone semi-popular writes a piece on getting up early, two days later there are 20 other pieces about the same thing, worded slightly different with a closing paragraph that states something like, “This has really worked for me, try it and you’ll see it work for you.” Some of the off-shoots might even be converted to a listicle for “easy reading” and be called “19 Things Waking Up Early Has Taught Me”.
Define your own success.
Realize that just because a motivational circle jerk feels good, doesn’t mean it is good. And it certainly doesn’t mean that you’ll actually become successful as a result of your participation.
For content creators, can we stop regurgitating and start creating? Can we write about things that matter to us? Can we talk about things we’ve learned and not just things we’ve read that someone else has learned? Can we tell our stories, not what we think everyone else should be doing?
I really don’t mind reading a story about “The Real Reason I Quit My Job”, it’s your story. It’s interesting. It might glean some insights into my own life through it. But when someone who has no verifiable success or authority starts touting themselves as the ultimate authority on success and personal improvement, well, I’ve got a problem with that.