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Avoiding the old and familiar is crucial.

A field full of long, spindly grass blocks your path. You could force your way through, but it’s a big field, and the grass is over six feet high. You’re keen to get to the other side, however, so you give it a go.

Twenty minutes pass, but it’s hard work, and you don’t make much progress. You push for another twenty minutes before giving up, blaming your lack of motivation, and your inability to see things through to the end.

Feeling useless, you begin to question why you even tried, when suddenly, you spot a pathway that’s already cleared. You’re not sure where it goes, but it feels like your best option. You take the easy path, but before long, you realise it was a loop, and you find yourself back where you started.

Starting a new habit is hard, and when people try and fail, the metaphor above is usually what it looks like. We revert back to our familiar habits, even when they do not serve us. Part of the problem lies in how our brains are wired, always looking to save energy, and tricking us to take the easy route.

As a university lecturer and PhD student studying the neuroscience of addiction, I’ve been exploring the impact of habit formation over the past 5 years. What I’ve found is that old habits are hard to break, and new habits are hard to implement.

There is good news, however. Once you make a start and begin clearing a new pathway, positive habits are just as hard to change.

Here are 4 simples tips to help you to get over that first hurdle when starting a new habit:


Change your Environment

As the saying goes, if you sit in a barber shop for long enough, you’ll end up getting a haircut. You cannot underestimate the importance of your environment when trying to create a new habit.

This doesn’t need to be complicated. If you want to eat healthily, don’t put junk food in your fridge. If you want to reduce your phone usage, don’t leave it lying around. If you want to start reading regularly, leave a book on your pillow for when you go to bed. You can also use technology to set positive habit cues for yourself.

Most new habit plans break down because people forget about them, or if they’re busy, existing habits, which the brain loves, tend to take over. So you need to mitigate these memory lapses by changing your environment.

Most importantly, you need to get rid of the environmental triggers that don’t serve you anymore, because just like the easy path in the field, they’ll pull you in the wrong direction.


Combine Existing Habits With New Ones

Our brains did not evolve to recall information in isolation; instead, information is grouped together in a process called associative learning. This form of learning, where ideas and experiences can be mentally combined to reinforce one another, can also be done with habits.

When it comes to building new habits, you can use associative learning to your advantage. You simply identify an existing habit, say, brushing your teeth, and piggyback your new habit on top. This is what James Clear calls habit stacking.

For example, after I brush my teeth in the morning, I immediately start my morning routine. Every time I get into my car, I centre myself by focusing on my breath for one full minute. After I get into bed at night, I read for at least twenty minutes.

Stacking your habits not only helps you to stick to new habits, but your existing habits provide a memory cue that you won’t forget.


Stop Negotiating With Your Own Mind

Have you ever woken up in the morning with great plans? It might be a new meditation practice, a new gym routine, or a new journaling exercise. You were super motivated the night before, but when you open your eyes in the morning, you start negotiating with your own mind.

“I’m a little tired. Maybe I can start tomorrow.”

“Just 10 more minutes. I’ll get up and do it then.”

Once you start negotiating with yourself, you’re in trouble, and the longer the conversation goes on, your brain usually wins. Maybe you even wake up an hour later and blame the alarm for not waking you, completely disregarding the fact that you just didn’t bother.

To stop these negotiations in their tracks, you need to act quickly. Mel Robbins’s 5-second rule works great for this. When you catch yourself negotiating, simply count 5, 4, 3, 2,1 — GO, and move towards action. When this becomes a habit, you won’t want to break the chain, and you’ll become unstoppable.


Jump Straight Back In

Life is hard, and no matter what amazing habit plans you hatch, there will be bumps along the road. This means one thing: if you are one of those people who thinks, “Sure, I lost Monday, the whole week is ruined,” then you’re in serious trouble.

Once this pattern of thinking sets in, your brain will begin scanning for all kinds of reasons to rationalize its way into familiar and easy habits.

The unfortunate fact is, life will get in the way. You need to accept this, and when you hit a bump in the road, the trick is to jump straight back in.

If your new gym plans are ruined by an early morning meeting, go in the evening, or make up for it throughout the week. If your new meditation routine is messed up by your kids or partner, practice in your car before work. If your new diet plans are ruined by a friend’s wedding or a dose of the flu, jump back into it as soon as you get a chance.

Even the best habit plans run into trouble. This is not a failure — it’s part of life. When this happens, avoiding old habits is crucial, and then as soon as you can, jump straight back into your new ones.


Old habits are hard to break, but the good news is, so are positive ones. Once you start pounding down the grass to make a new pathway, the path that brought you in a loop — your old habits — will start to grow over.

To get over the first hurdle, however, you’ll need to make it easy for your brain. Avoiding old habits is crucial. So remember to change your environment, combine existing habits with new ones, stop negotiating with your own mind, and when you do fall off the wagon, make sure you jump straight back in.