‘It is only when we silent the blaring sounds of our daily existence that we can finally hear the whispers of truth that life reveals to us, as it stands knocking on the doorsteps of our hearts.’ — K.T. Jong
In our world today, to find ourselves in a situation where we are truly alone is nearly impossible. We are always surrounded by something that occupies our attention, time and energy. And by being alone, I’m not talking about being alone in bed while you are binge-watching Netflix, or playing your Playstation all night just by yourself.
What I mean is alone alone.
In life, balance is always the key, and it is imperative that you allocate a time for you to be alone and take a break from the dizzying whirls of life. It is important that once in a while, you pull yourself away from the stress and pressure and expectations that are pressing upon you as if you are trapped in an hourglass. Just you and your thoughts. To think back on your life. To evaluate the decisions you have made and will make.
Well, it should be, because you are facing reality. Facing reality is never easy. That is why most of the things we see are created to help us to not face reality. Our lives are filled with forms of escapism. The apps in your phone. The games you play. The comics you read. The series you watch.
These things exist to assist us in escaping reality that we find challenging. To find strength and purpose in solitude is one of the hardest things in life. But what it ensures once you are past this barrier, is that you will be an improved version of yourself.
So, here are 3 reasons why being alone with yourself will ultimately benefit you in the short and long run.
1) Mental Resilience
Being alone develops mental resilience. It prepares you for the rough patches in life that will hit you.
To be able to rely on someone is a blessing that not everybody shares. It is also a blessing that you might not be able to have all the time.
Throughout our life, you will find yourself in instances where you will be unable to count on anyone except yourself. You won’t have your parents, your siblings, nor your friends to take your hand and lead you out of dangerous waters. It will only be you and you alone.
In your darkest moments, you will find ourselves in a lonely place where the only option is to pick yourself up. And at that moment, your mental resilience comes into play.
2) Recharges The Mind, Soul And Body
Despite the countless motivational quotes on humans being limitless, that is only a figurative quote that cannot be taken literally. Human beings, just like this earth, have finite amount of resources.
You have limited amount of resources to spend.
So, what are your resources? You do not have oil to tap into or minerals to mine. What you have is far much greater, without which, all of the earth’s resources would be worthless.
You have limited energy to exert in a limited amount of time. This implies that it is important for us to delegate our time and energy to the things that deserve it. And who deserves your time and energy the most if not yourself? Without making the time and effort for yourself, it is very much possible for you to run yourself to the ground.
It is therefore vital that the time and energy you possess are utilised to the best you can. And what better way to utilise than projecting them into self-care? With all the effort that you exert with our mind, being alone helps you organise your thoughts and also allows your brain and body to rest and recharge.
‘The monotony and solitude of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind.’ — Albert Enstein
In our world today, creativity is deemed as a must-have skill in workplaces. This is because creativity is linked to problem-solving skills, and that itself is a trait that all employers would love their employees to have. But creativity itself isn’t only useful in your workplaces.
In our daily life, creativity is an incredibly useful skill that helps us overcome any type of problems that stands in our way. By the word skill, it means that creativity can be developed. It is not something that you are either born with or without.
Just like how water and sunlight is the catalyst for a seed to grow, solitude is the catalyst for your mind to expand. It gives you the opportunity to explore your own thoughts that would otherwise be restrained and undeveloped if you do not give it a chance.
While this articles shares the benefits of solitude, it is important to remember that no person is an island. Human beings are social creatures, and being around others is a need for us. Too much solitude will only hurt. What I wish to impart is that a life of balance is vital for us. We all need to balance the time that we spend with people and the time we spend alone. After all, balance is an essential quality in life. By ensuring that the important components of our lives are living in harmony, only then can we achieve a peace of mind, thus ensuring that we are the best version of ourselves.